August 22, 2011
Dear Dragon,
“I see something extra there,” said the sonographer. And with those words you suddenly became more real as a ‘he’ than an ‘it.’
It’s no secret we were hoping for a girl. I’m not sure why. It seems easier to raise a girl. I feel by virtue of being a woman I instinctually know more about girl-raising. I’m probably very wrong about that. We think we know everything about parenting right now. I’m sure by the time you read this you will feel we have done everything wrong. Sorry about that by the way.
But all day I’ve been repeating to myself, “I am going to be the mother of a SON,” and by tonight, those words have become an awe inspiring mantra. Awe inspiring and sensible. I think the universe is trying to course correct. We need more men in the Msleetobe clan, and maybe we also need more males in order to heal. (and this and this)
I do not have the slightest idea of how to mother a son, but I’m suddenly quite thrilled (thrilled tinged with terror!^^) with this new challenge. You are going to teach your mother how to mother you. You are going to make your mother push her boundaries and grow as a person just as you are growing as a person.
I’m so excited.
We’re in this together baby boy.
Love Your Mummy (the mother of a son!)
It must feel so great to feel Baby Dragon’s identity become more precise, even if that means forgetting your hopes to welcome his very concrete reality in your lives
You’ll certainly be a great mom for your little dragon boy ! ^^
By the way, I thought the sonographer was not allowed to disclose the baby’s sex in Korea : has this changed ?
Yes! That’s exactly what is so exiciting! His identity is becoming more precise. I love how you put that
It is still illegal to disclose sex…but many places do it. However, they usually phrase it as a ‘hint.’ (Thus the ‘I see something extra there’ instead of the more direct ‘it’s a boy!) Actually, the sonographer didn’t say do you want to know the sex, she said, ‘do you want a hint about the sex?’ Some other people have been told me that they were told ‘the baby will resemble the mother’ or something like that.
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I’ve been away from the blogosphere for quite some time and it seems “CONGRATULATIONS!” are is order
And as the mother of a 1 year old boy, I can tell you with certainty that YES YES YES “it seems easier to raise a girl” !!!! 
I was out with some girls the other night, and they were assuring me that no, raising a boy is easier, but I think you are telling me the truth!^^ I’ll be looking for some advice in the future!!!!
Congratulations!